Condescension, Snobbery, Rankism & Cosplay Bullying in Costume Clubs

Have you ever encountered #CostumeClub members while you were in #costume? Did they talk to you about your costume or #cosplay? Did they start to critique your costume and you make feel uncomfortable? If your answer to the last question was “yes”, you’re not alone.

The practice by some costume club members critiquing & criticizing other people’s #costumes & #cosplays is a common occurrence. Not all costume club members do this, but enough of them do it that it’s periodically a topic of conversation amongst people who aren’t costume club members or who are members of other costume clubs. While there is high likelihood that the critical costume club members are part of a #StarWars costume club, the real question is why do any costume club members behave like this?

Let’s begin with the fact that costume clubs typically base approval for membership on what its members have deemed to be a “high quality” costume, which generally implies that the costume has been constructed using durable materials that allow the costume to be long-lasting and worn many times while showing little or no damage as a result of repeated wearings. “Star Wars” costume clubs (and some others) also require what their members often refer to as “screen-accuracy”, which means (in essence) that the costume appears so accurate that it makes the wearer look like he or she walked off of a movie screen or comic book.

“High quality” and “screen accuracy” also mean something else: that such a costume isn’t necessarily common and was very likely rather expensive to obtain. The use of “high quality” (durable) materials and a screen accurate appearance isn’t something that you can just run down to a specialty costume/party store or department store to purchase. Instead, the wearer probably had to seek out private prop & costume makers, expensive commercially-licensed professional costume suppliers, or some combination of the two; plus obtaining other items, such as appropriate tools, in order to have and wear that costume. In other words, they spent a lot of time, money and effort to have a “high quality” (and probably “screen accurate”) costume just to get into the costume club’s door.

Now, while there are many other costumers, cosplayers and #fursuiters who have spent considerable time, money and effort to have the costumes that they wear, that doesn’t mean that they’re going to start behaving in a critical manner towards other costumers, cosplayers & fursuiters. Mind you, it can and does happen, but there’s another layer that contributes to the false sense of superiority that some costume club members develop: the “specialness” and “privilege” of being an approved member of that costume club.

Each costume club creates its own internal subculture that’s unique to that club. That subculture includes access to events and information that isn’t available to people outside of the club; the use of special “jargon” that developed internally within that club; access to members-only message boards & groups; the ability to purchase, own and wear members-only swag that is unique to that club; etc. All of these aspects (combined with the fact that the member owns at least one expensive, “high-quality”, “screen accurate” costume to be a member of that club) can sometimes make that member feel overly “special” or “privileged”. This sense of being overly “special” & privileged that can develop may lead to some very negative qualities: arrogance, conceit, vanity, condescension, snobbery, etc.:

“Look at me: I’m special. I have an awesome costume and I’m part of such-and-such costume club and can access things that you can’t. This makes me better than you because you’re not a member and can’t see these member-only things.”

Now, while not everyone who joins a costume club subsequently becomes condescending and snobbish after joining, when someone outside of the club encounters any costume club members that are, chances are high that that person may conclude that most (if not all) of that club’s members are the same way. This is especially true if the snobbish & condescending members acted patronizingly towards the person, or were observed by that person being patronizing towards someone else.

Costume club members who publicly act arrogantly, conceitedly, condescendingly, patronizingly or snobbishly towards non-members ultimately damage that costume club’s reputation.

Usually, only fellow costume club members are privy to the full, unbridled extent of how arrogant, conceited, vain, condescending & snobbish some costume club members can become because they can exhibit those qualities without fear of reprisal in the perceived safety and privacy of members-only groups and message boards. The degree of arrogance, conceit, vanity, condescension & snobbery displayed in those members-only groups & message boards would surprise outsiders as it often surprises newly approved members who never realized that this occurred until after they joined. Sadly, some new members can and do get pulled into having the same negative behavior and self-aggrandizing views over time.

Reading this, you might ask, “Don’t costume clubs discourage this kind of behavior?” As an example, at the very beginning of Section 1 of the “Code of Conduct” of the 501st Legion’s “Operation Protocols” (or bylaws), the following is written:

“The 501st Legion recognizes that its costumes represent characters from the STAR WARS™ films and as such, costume-wearers carry the responsibility of portraying these characters professionally and tastefully while in public. For these reasons, all members are prohibited from acting in a manner disrespectful towards the image they are portraying, towards fellow organization members, or towards the public at large while in costume at any event where the 501st Legion or its sub-units and members are official participants.”

While this all sounds very good, one only has to read the fine print at the end: respectful behavior is ONLY required “while in costume at any event where the 501st Legion or its sub-units and members are official participants.” Thus, when 501st Legion members aren’t in costume or aren’t directly representing the 501st Legion at an official event, they can act as disrespectfully as they want. And, sadly, some of them (as well as the members of other clubs with similar rules) do exactly that.

So, how do you think arrogant, conceited, condescending, patronizing & snobbish costume club members react when confronted about their behavior towards others when they’re not in costume and otherwise not representing the club in their eyes? They become defensive and often resort to rationalizations and confirmation biases in an attempt to justify their disrespectful & self-aggrandizing behavior.

Back in the year 1997, a professor named Robert Fuller coined a more generic term to describe all kinds of disrespectful & self-aggrandizing behavior: “rankism”, which he defines as the “abusive, discriminatory, or exploitative behavior towards people because of their rank in a particular hierarchy.”  Rankism is what people who regard themselves as “somebodies” do to people whom they regard to be “nobodies”. Rank-based abuse underlies a broad spectrum of negative phenomena, such as #bullying, #elitism, #racism, #hazing, #ageism, #sexism, #homophobia & more.

Rankism can occur in any social hierarchy (such as governments, corporations, families, non-profit organizations, and universities) and tends to feed on itself within a group context. Two of the many characteristic examples of rankism that apply to costume club member snobbery & condescension include the following:

  • Using rank as a shield to get away with insulting or humiliating others with impunity.
  • Exporting the rank achieved in one sphere of activity to claim superior value as a person.
The victims of rankism experience it as an affront to their personal dignity.

Incidents of rankism (arrogance, conceit, condescension, snobbery, etc) occur within costume clubs more frequently than their leaderships & members would care to admit. Examples of rankism that have been directly observed within more than one “Star Wars” costume club include (but are not limited to) the following:

  • People wearing costumes constructed from materials that the costume club generally regards as being “low quality” (such as EVA foam) are often viewed with derision & disdain.
    • Convention attendees wearing costumes or cosplays made from such materials may be directly criticized for doing so by some costume club members.
    • Costume club members may express their negative views regarding such costumes & materials on costume club message boards that are typically only accessible to other members.
    • The members of other costume clubs that permit the usage of materials regarded as being lesser quality may also be subject to criticism and derogatory names. Derogatory names such as “garbage-can Mandos” and “bathrobe Jedi” are two examples of how some members of one particular “Star Wars” costume club sometimes have referred to the members of two other “Star Wars” costume clubs.
  • Individuals who built customized versions of “canon” costumes may also subject to criticism by members of costume clubs that don’t permit customization and view them as not being “screen-accurate”.
    • Members of costume clubs that don’t permit customization often criticize similar costume clubs that do.
  • Costumed convention attendees who aren’t costume club members may find themselves and their costumes being critiqued by members of a costume club who take it upon themselves to let those attendees know what they did wrong and what they should make their costumes more “screen-accurate” or on par with the level of quality that their costume club requires for membership. More often than not, the costumed attendees probably never asked or even approached the costume club members or asked the members for their views on their costumes. Out of arrogance & vanity, some costume club members believe it’s their duty to impose their unwanted “expertise” upon others because they’re so convinced that everyone ultimately wants to join their club, which isn’t true.

Criticizing others due to the quality or appearance of their costumes or the types of materials that they used may sound like a familiar type of negative behavior that we have spoken against in the past: #CosplayBullying. For example, while the 501st Legion’s “Code of Conduct” (as we referenced above) lists several types of unacceptable harassment by its members (including sexual harassment, racial prejudice and sexual orientation prejudice), criticizing or harassing people due to the perceived quality or accuracy of their costumes is not specifically listed. Thus, the “Code of Conduct” of the world’s single largest costume club fails to address the problem of cosplay bullying. And, cosplay bullying is often at the heart why some people stop cosplaying altogether.

As a whole, costume clubs have failed in their responsibility to encourage members to behave respectfully towards others even when they’re not in costume or not otherwise directly representing the club. While they may not view these “out of costume” times as being enforceable, they could (at the very least) educate their members that their behavior (both in and out of costume) can reflect poorly on the club (and themselves) when they act disrespectfully towards others and are self-aggrandizing. They could stop members from behaving arrogantly, conceitedly, condescendingly & snobbishly towards other in their members-only message boards & groups, but by failing to do so, they enable the behavior instead of discouraging it.

Cosplay bullying is never acceptable, regardless of the form that it takes.

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Ray Park & Daniel Logan Both Quit the 501st Legion Costume Club

Only hours ago late yesterday (Oct. 5, 2018), #StarWars actor Ray Park (who played #DarthMaul) announced on his #Instagram account that he has quit being a member of the #501stLegion. (The “501st Legion” is the largest & oldest “Star Wars” #CostumeClub and Ray Park has been an active member for many years, as has actor Daniel Logan.)

On his Instagram, Mr. Park wrote the following:

“iamraypark #announcement I AM NO LONGER A 501st legion member. Reason: Disappointed!! However, A certain or a certain member spoiled it for me in Edmontont, 501 legion. I AM A STAR WARS FAN. I AM A FAN BUT NOT A FAN OF THIS! #sithlife #raypark #cancelled

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This same message is also posted on Mr. Park’s Twitter account:

Ray Park's Announcement to Quit the 501st Legion on Twitter

In response, the “501st Legion” on its #Facebook page issued the following apology:

“Ray Park, please accept our most sincere apology, from the almost 14,000 members of the 501st Legion. You deserve the utmost respect and courtesy, always. We hope that you and Daniel Logan can help us make this right. Thank you.”

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After learning about this, “Star Wars” actor Daniel Logan (who played the young Boba Fett and is also a member of the “501st Legion”) announced his solidarity with Ray Park Instagram and that he, too, was quitting the “501st Legion”:

Daniel Logan's Announcement Quitting the "501st Legion" on Instagram in Response to Ray Park

While not all of the facts have been publicly presented (but there’s a lot of hearsay), a recent article on Yahoo that was published only in September, 2018 may shed light as to the nature of what may have caused Ray Park to decide to quit:

“Ray Park, the British actor who first played Darth Maul in Star Wars: Episode I – The Phantom Menace, has defended his appearance in Solo: A Star Wars Story after receiving “a few fatty comments” about his return to the role.

Maul made a surprise cameo in Solo where it was revealed that he had survived his “death” in The Phantom Menace, and was behind the shadowy Crimson Dawn crime syndicate that looms over the spin-off film.

On Instagram Park says that, although he doesn’t care about the comments and he doesn’t need to justify his appearance in the film, he “worked his butt off” to play Maul once again. He’s also shared photos of himself looking absolutely ripped to silence the haters.

Unfortunately, Mr. Park removed that Instagram post to which the article referred, but we are definitely appalled that anyone would “fat-shame” Ray Park.

One individual wrote the following on Instagram. While we cannot verify it’s accuracy, it’s description is aligns with some our and others own experiences:

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Since we first created our Facebook page and, later, this WordPress blog, we’ve posted numerous times about toxicity and bullying that occurs “behind closed doors” within costume clubs, and that includes the “501st Legion”. This situation with Ray Park and Daniel Logan is the most public display of just how toxic some superfans within these clubs can be. Poor & weak costume leadership is clearly a factor, which is something else that we have discussed in the past:

As we posted on our Facebook page on January 22, 2016 (also linked above):

“Being part of a costume club can be an enormously rewarding experience, but it can also turn into one of your worst nightmares in the blink of an eye. As long as things go smoothly and morale is high, you can be an active member for potentially years. But if things go awry with conflict & drama, regardless of how much time and effort you have invested into being an active member of the club, you have to know when it’s time to quit. This can be an extremely difficult reality to accept, especially for anyone who has been a member for years and invested considerable time and effort into the club. The key to remember is this: if the conflict & drama is causing a significant amount of stress for yourself, what impact is it also having on your family? We have witnessed several marriages end due in large part to unremitting costume club drama that one spouse is unwilling to step away from. Is a costume club filled with drama more important than your family? Probably not. Try to keep that in mind that sometimes the only realistic solution for yourself and the well being of your family is to walk away from the club. Not being a club member isn’t going to inhibit you from continuing to be an active costumer or cosplayer; but it will very likely restore it into being a fun an rewarding experience again.”

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The Ugly Side of Fandoms, Cosplay & Costume Clubs

#Fandoms, #cosplay & #CostumeClubs can be wonderful things: each draws a wide assortment of people together who share a common interest or love. Unfortunately, that wide assortment of people also means the potential for widely different points of view, temperaments, psychologies, beliefs and understandings (among other things) that can lead to a very ugly side of fandoms, cosplay & costume clubs: conflict and drama.

While this ugly side isn’t always active, it can brew just beneath the surface waiting for an opportunity to manifest, sometimes rearing its ugly head on the smallest of issues that can occur among groups of people that are only connected on a single activity of interest.

The ugly side of fandoms, cosplay & costume clubs isn’t something that members of these groups generally want to acknowledge or talk about publicly, but after it starts it can potentially become a public spectacle if it escalates. And guess what: escalation of drama & conflict within any of these groups can occur very rapidly. Further, once conflict & drama starts, it can go on for months or even years with little or no abatement.

But why does such intense conflict and drama occur within fandoms, cosplay & costume clubs? Consider the word “fan”.

From Fan to Fanatic and Fanaticism

The word “fan” was originally a shortened version of the word “fanatic”, but now there’s a fine difference in definitions between these two words:

  • A fan is “a person who has a strong interest in or admiration for a particular person or thing.”
  • A fanatic is “a person with an obsessive interest in and enthusiasm for something, especially an activity.”

Thus, the difference between a fan and a fanatic is that a fan has a “strong interest”, whereas a fanatic has an “obsessive interest”. In other words, if a fan’s enthusiasm & strong interest for a fandom, cosplay or a costume club transforms into an obsession, then that person is no longer simply a fan: that person has become a fanatic. And guess what: fanatics have a much larger propensity to initiate and escalate drama and conflict than a typical fan. This description from Wikipedia really sums it up best:

“The fanatic displays very strict standards and little tolerance for contrary ideas or opinions.”

From personal experience and personal observations within various fandoms, groups of cosplayers, and (especially) costume clubs, unreasonableness and obsession are nearly always at the core of the drama and conflict when it occurs.

And here’s something very important to understand: when you think about how intolerant a religious or political fanatic can become, unfortunately, fanatics within fandoms, cosplay groups & costume clubs can experience similar levels of intolerance. This is why conflict & drama can become so intense within these groups and why it can last for months or even years.

And that, ladies & gentlemen, is what drives the ugly side of fandoms, cosplay & costume clubs: fanaticism and the intolerance that it generates. But how does the conflict and drama get started? Let’s explore that.

How Conflict & Drama Often Begins

On June 4, 2018, Mandalore the Uniter posted the following statement on Facebook:

Words are typically the weapon of choice that most often instigates drama & conflict within a fandom, a group of cosplayers or between costume club members. Words are typically also the weapon of choice that leads to escalating the drama and conflict for months or even years at a time. Whoever said that words can’t harm others obviously never saw the harm that they can and do cause, including when they’re used as weapons on the Internet.

Now, for those of you who might attribute the start of a conflict or drama to a particular action, just remember: it’s often how the involved parties react to the offending action immediately afterwards that may determine whether it erupts into a full-blown conflict & drama. And, more often than not, those reactions will probably come in the form of words.

But words aren’t the only weapon that may be used. There have been cases where inappropriate phone calls have been made to employers to try and get people fired. There have been instances of falsifying evidence to get people in trouble when they did nothing wrong. Sometimes a conflicting party might even spy or get someone else to spy on the person (or people) that they’re fighting with. We even know of a case where an individual attempted to have another party arrested by claiming that that other party had stolen something even though there’s absolutely no evidence. Just imagine police coming to your door and asking you to go to a police station to be questioned for something you didn’t do. In the case that we know of, the police ultimately apologized to the party and no charges were ever filed because the person was innocent even though the accuser continues to make the false accusations years later.

The Different Parties Typically Involved in Conflict & Drama

When conflict erupts within a group, it usually starts between 2 of the group’s members. These individuals are typically referred to as the primary participants or the initiators.

As knowledge of a conflict begins to spread within the group (as it so often can), additional parties who weren’t present when the conflict began may allow themselves or they may feel compelled to also become involved. We refer to these individuals as secondary participants.

Together, the primary and secondary participants on both sides of a conflict can be collectively referred to as the active participants.

Now, not all conflicts are two-sided; some are one-sided. In a one-sided conflict, one or more individuals who are actively perpetuating a conflict are directing it at someone else (or possibly an entire group) who isn’t actively responding to the conflict. In this type of situation, the person (or group) that’s on the receiving end, but not actively trying to perpetuate any conflict themselves, can be referred to as an inactive or involuntary participant.

Beyond the active (and possibly involuntary) participants is a third group: the bystanders. Bystanders are people who may be unaware of the conflict, or they may be individuals who do know about it, but have chosen to not take sides and remain neutral.

To remain neutral, a bystander must avoid showing any favoritism towards either side of the conflict. A bystander can express a desire to see the conflict end, but anything beyond that has the potential of drawing the bystander into the conflict itself as an active participant. It’s not uncommon for active participants on one or both sides of a conflict to approach bystanders in an effort to get them to take sides and become involved themselves.

Within a conflict, active participants can take on one or more roles. Some of these roles are more common with the primary participants, while others may be more common with the secondary ones. Some of the roles are listed below.

  • Initiators are the individuals that started the conflict in the first place. These are the primary participants.
  • Defenders are typically secondary participants who become involved to defend one of the original primary participants in the conflict.
  • Instigators may be primary or secondary participants, who want to intensify an existing conflict.
  • Trolls are primary or secondary participants who attempt to attack one side of a conflict online. Sometimes they attempt to do so anonymously.
  • Stonewallers are primary or secondary participants that perpetuate the drama & conflict by ignoring people perceived to be on the other side of the conflict.
  • Fault-Finders are primary or secondary participants that look for fault (real or fabricated) with anyone on the other side of the conflict with the intent of exploiting it for their side.

Recent Ugly Examples in the Public Eye

Some ugly, obsessive, unreasonable, racist and even threatening “Star Wars” fans recently made it into the news when actress Kelly Marie Tran decided to delete all of her posts on the social media site Instagram because of continuous abusive posts that she had been receiving from disgruntled fans who didn’t like her character. Some of the harassment that Tran faced online includes an incident in which her character’s description on the Star Wars ‘Wookieepedia’ website was altered to feature offensive, racist language.

Similar to Kelly Marie Tran, fellow “Star Wars” actress Daisy Ridley completely deleted her Instagram account in 2016 after she began to be harassed by people over a post she wrote about gun violence.

“Star Wars” actor John Boyega was attacked in 2014 for being the first on-screen black stormtrooper, and this was coming from franchise fans; but he effectively defended himself.

And let’s not forget about what happened to “Star Wars” prequel actor Jake Lloyd. In 2017, renowned “Star Wars” actor Mark Hamill expressed his dislike regarding how Jake Lloyd was treated by critics following the 1999 release of “The Phantom Menace”:

“I couldn’t believe some of the things they wrote about the prequels, you know. I mean really, beyond I didn’t like it. I’m still angry about the way they treated Jake Lloyd. He was only ten years old, that boy, and he did exactly what George wanted him to do. Believe me, I understand clunky dialog.”

And that doesn’t even include how the fans have viewed him or his performance. Not only did Jake Lloyd quit acting after “The Phantom Menace”, he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Could all of the verbal abuse that Jake Lloyd received due to his acting in “The Phantom Menace” have been a contributing factor to his schizophrenia? We may never know, but words can cause a lot of damage.

Then there’s the recent public admission from “Star Wars” actor Ahmed Best (who played Jar Jar Binks) that he became suicidal at one point from how angry fans were with his character. Thankfully, other fans came forward to express their support and he thanked them.

Director Christopher McQuarrie has publicly said that he now never wants to direct a “Star Wars” (or superhero) movie because of how ugly the fans can become. In his own words, the toxic fandom has “cured” him from wanting to become involved in the franchise.

All of This Conflict & Drama Is So Unnecessary

Even though we have posted in the past that all of this obsessive, ugly behavior is completely necessary, it can be very difficult if not impossible to get fans-turned-fanatics to stop their negative behavior. What you can do, however, is to avoid becoming embroiled in any conflict & drama yourself as the damage that can ensue may be unrepairable. Friendships destroyed and people leaving the cosplay & costuming hobby altogether are not uncommon results from excessive conflict & drama.

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National Stop Bullying Day (Unity Day)

We urge all #costumers, #cosplayers & #CostumeClub members to remember that today is #NationalStopBullyingDay. #Bullying is a topic that we have posted about many times in the past and it remains an ongoing problem, not only against children, but also against fellow cosplayers, costumers & members of costume clubs.

Bullying is essentially repeated physical, mental, and/or emotional abuse. While most associate bullying with children, many adults are subjected to a variety of forms of bullying. The American Psychological Association defines bullying as “a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words, or more subtle actions.”

Common forms of adult bullying are as follows:

  • Physical bullying. This includes physical intimidation, threat, harassment and/or harm; such as physical attack, simulated violence (raising a fist as if to strike, or throwing objects near a person), extortion, date rape, marital rape, domestic violence, sexual harassment at work, personal space violation, physical space entrapment, physical size domination, and numerical domination (ganging up on a victim).
  • Tangible/material bullying. This involves using one’s title or position or material leverage (such as financial, informational, or legal) to intimidate, threaten, harass, and/or harm in order to dominate and control the victim.
  • Verbal bullying. This includes threats, shaming, hostile teasing, insults, constant negative judgment & criticism; or racist, sexist, or homophobic language.
  • Passive-aggressive or covert bullying. Probably one of the most insidious & difficult to prove forms of bullying, this involves subtle bullying while pretending to behave normally on the surface. Examples include negative gossip, negative joking at someone’s expense, sarcasm, condescending eye contact, facial expression or gestures, mimicking to ridicule, deliberately causing embarrassment & insecurity, the invisible treatment, social exclusion, professional isolation, and deliberately sabotaging someone’s well-being, happiness, and success.
  • Cyber bullying. Various types of tangible, verbal & passive-aggressive bullying mentioned above can also all be carried out behind the sometimes anonymous computer keyboard via social media, texting, video, email, on-line discussion, and other digital formats.

Sadly, we have directly observed all of the above types of bullying occurring within the costuming & cosplay communities, most often between members of costume clubs (and not necessarily within the same club), as we have posted earlier this year on this blog. Sadly, the bullying that occurs within costume clubs is often ignored by leadership even after multiple complaints are filed. Then there was the publicized case of an Overwatch cosplayer being bullied for being black.

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Overwatch Cosplayer Bullied Online for Being Black

You’d think that #racism wouldn’t occur in the #cosplay & #costuming community, but it does & here’s a sad example: #Overwatch #cosplayer #bullied because she’s black. It doesn’t matter what race, what culture, what religion, what gender, what sexual orientation, what age or what size you are. Anyone can cosplay any character that they choose to cosplay and it’s time for this community to unite against the bullying, racism & bigotry that continues.

As a cosplayer or costumer, what do you want this hobby to represent? The freedom for anyone to express themselves through the wearing of a costume, or people trying to tell others what they can or cannot wear because of the color of their skin, their gender, or anything else that makes them different from the character that they’re cosplaying?

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Bullying & Costume Club Leadership 

More often than not, #CostumeClubs turn a blind eye to #bullying (#AdultBullying) occurring within their membership, even after a victim reports it.

There are various reasons why internal #CostumeClub bullying can occur unhampered:

  • Victims don’t always or are unwilling to report the bullying that they’re being subjected to. This may happen because they may feel too intimidated or afraid to report it for fear of additional reprisals. This can be especially true in cases where the bully is friends with or has strong influence with current leadership, or if the bully is part of the leadership structure.
  • Costume club leaders are not often willing to handle issues of internal conflict. A typical response from leadership to the victim who filed a complaint of harassment or bullying is, “Don’t do anything and it will probably go away.”
  • Costume club leaders may claim that the club’s charter (or equivalent) lacks enforceable rules regarding harassment & bullying of members by other members.
  • Costume club leaders upon receiving a complaint from a victim of bullying may blame the victim and, again, do nothing to stop the bullying that’s occurring.

Unchecked, bullying can go on for years because the bully(ies) is an adult, so they’re not going to “grow out of it”, which is a typical excuse used for child bullies. The person who bullies others obviously enjoys what they’re doing. This shows that they’re sadistic & compassionless. They may be narcissistic, sociopathic, a combination of the two, or have additional mental disorders.

When leaders fail to do their job of handling internal costume club conflicts, bullies can continue their bad behavior for years.

As recently deceased concentration camp survivor & long-time human rights advocate Elie Wiesel (1928-2016) once said, “We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.”


There are ways to remedy & make it difficult for adult bullies to continue their sadistic behavior within costume clubs:

  • Costume club leaders must never ignore when a member reports being harassed & bullied, especially if the member has well-documented specific incidents of bullying.
  • If you are the victim of recurring bullying in a costume club from another member, accurately document every occurrence of being bullied before filing a complaint against the bully with costume club leadership.
  • If the bully is a friend of, has strong influence with or is a member of leadership of a costume club’s local chapter, don’t file a complaint locally. Either go to the leadership of a neighboring local chapter or take it directly to the national or international costume club leadership. Just make sure the complaint is well documented before filing.
  • If a costume club’s charter fails to address the issue of internal bullying, the it is imperative that the costume club’s charter is amended to address the issue to include specific penalties for any member found guilty of bullying.

Ironically, most costume clubs will make public announcements (especially in social media) that they’re against bullying while failing to address the problem of internal bullying that may be occurring.